Have you ever felt like your life isn’t quite right? It’s like a picture you’ve hung up on the wall only to see it’s the tiniest bit crooked. Something just feels off. Of course you have, you’re human. We’ve all had that feeling of off-ness that we just can’t put out finger on. I was having that feeling last week. Depression wasn’t quite the word for it, and neither was feeling in a funk. It wasn’t quite discontent either. I just felt off. I tried to distract myself but that feeling persisted and I spent the whole day feeling off. Rolling
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If anyone reading this suffers from depression then you know how freakin’ hard it can be to motivate yourself to clean. It becomes first on the list of things we don’t have the energy or motivation to do. I’ve often said that you can judge my depression/stress level by what my kitchen sink looks like. 10 years ago, my depression was so bad that I would go three months without doing dishes, no joke. Depression affects so many aspects of your life. What your living area looks like, personal hygiene, job and school performance, it can be all-encompassing. Which made me
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I am an introvert. Who is also shy. Who also has social anxiety. Who wins the prize for the person most likely to become a shut-in who lives off the grid in a cabin in the woods? That would be me, except the woods don’t have a good internet connection, so I’ll pass. Introversion, shyness, and social anxiety don’t always go together and they aren’t the same thing, although often they are lumped together. They’re kinda like BFFs, when you find one, you usually find one or the other hanging around too. At least, that’s how it is for me.
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You’ve heard the saying “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks.”? That’s unabashedly me. I’ve been blogging for six years and I have a system. I don’t like when things mess with my systems. Focus on Facebook and Twitter and dabble in everything else. “Facebook is where the traffic is.” I kept hanging onto that years’ old advice despite my Facebook posts getting little to no engagement. I figured traffic would even out eventually. I started seeing Pinterest touted as a great way to get traffic and I resisted. I mindlessly pinned each new blog post but I never paid
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Happy May! I don’t know about you, but going into this month I feel relief. The sun is shining, warmer days are ahead, and I can’t wait for it. We’ve been talking about self-care in the SoulSisterhood (join us) and what a hard month April was and how we can do better going forward. That’s always my goal, to try to do better. So let’s do a quick review of April to see what better looks like: April Review What was your overall feeling about April? What were you absolutely in love with? What were your top 5 favorite moments? What
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I used to be very hard on myself. I took the tough-love approach to my self-improvement. I thought that the meaner I was to myself the more it would motivate me to change. Call yourself fat and disgusting enough time and you’ll lose those pounds. Tell yourself how stupid you are and you’ll stop making mistakes. Shocker, it didn’t work. After awhile, it was so common for me to be mean to myself that I stopped noticing I was doing it.  Until I’d fall into depression and then I’d notice, and believe those things. Self-love helped me see that being
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One of the ways we are able to see how much we love ourselves is by whether or not we can say “no” to other people. No, when you don’t want to do something. No, when someone makes you uncomfortable. No, when someone treats you in a way you don’t want to be treated. Is that something you do easily? When you are able to say “no” to other people it means that you are putting yourself first, you may even feel selfish, but you know what it really is? Creating clear, consistent, boundaries and loving yourself and that is
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I have a confession to make, a few weeks ago, I was a grumpy bear in the mornings. I’d wake up with a groan, after abusing my snooze button multiple times. I’d lay in bed trying to convince myself that I could get out of bed in just 30 more seconds, which turned into another and another until I’d have 15 minutes to shower, get dressed, and get out the door for work. Needless to say, my morning routine was not a great start to my day. Lately, I’ve been struggling with a pretty bad bout of depression. Nothing new
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Music has always been one of my go-to self-care tools. If I could walk around with headphones on basically every time I left my house, I would. It’s an instant get-out-of-your-head anxiety-helper, which is why it’s a huge part of my self-care routine. It’s part of my morning routine as I shower, it’s part of my exercise routine when I’m running in the park, it’s part of my meditation practice, it’s part of working in my garden – music goes with me everywhere I go. I used to love sad music. When I was depressed it helped me process my
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 When I was younger I wanted a green thumb. I wanted to be able to grow things. I remember spending my allowance on rose bushes and packets of morning glory seeds, just in the hope that something would grow, and it did. But I really loved the ritual of it. The quietness of sitting in the early morning sunlight, sticking my hands into the earth, planting the seeds.The gentle watering and hoping for sunny days. I used to lay on my stomach looking at my little plot of earth singing Enya songs because I can’t imagine music that a plant
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