I’m re-reading the Dresden Files which is one of my favorite series about a snarky, wise-ass, wizard, private investigator who solves supernatural mysteries in Chicago. Looking for a fun, often times hilarious, read? I definitely recommend it. I have Dresden to thank for this blog post and the term psychological necromancy. What’s it mean? Psychological Necromancy: Giving new life to old memories and hurts and letting them torture you. All of those things that we haven’t dealt with in the past and all of the mistakes we’ve made? We pull them out of the past where they should be dead
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October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month and I wanted to take a moment to share some information with all of you lovely yous. More than 1 in 3 women (35.6%) and more than 1 in 4 men (28.5%) in the United States have experienced rape, physical violence and/or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime. That’s a pretty scary statistic. Add in verbal abuse and I think you’ll be hard-pressed to find someone who hasn’t experienced it in some form. My own experience with domestic violence is interesting. I think back to my first relationship and I read the
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Autumn. My favorite season. Warm drinks, warm blankets, cold air, and rustling leaves. It makes my soul sing but it also makes me turn deep inside of myself. It’s a weird combination of comfort and discomfort. Every single year I start going within, like Persephone’s descent into the Underworld. I feel like it’s time to figure myself out all over again. Re-build myself all over again. I’m like a tree letting its leaves fall. “No, don’t need that one anymore. Let go of that one too.” Self-care is essential to me in times like these. Traveling into that darkness requires
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Did you know that September is Self-Care Awareness Month? How exciting that we have a whole month devoted to the concept of taking care of ourselves. But think about that – we need a month of awareness to remind ourselves that we can take care of ourselves and that it’s okay. That it benefits us. That it’s good for us. I remember when self-care felt like an alien concept to me. It felt so strange to intentionally put myself first. Once I got used to treating myself in such a loving way, my life changed. It was so slowly at first.
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As you probably know. Business isn’t really my thing. I mean, it’s my thing because it’s something I do, but it’s not something I’m super passionate about. I don’t wake up in the middle of the night itching to write about SEO. You see, I’m pretty right brained so I love the creative parts of business. The writing, the designing, that queasy feeling in the pit of my stomach when I’m about to write something really vulnerable but amazing. It’s equal parts passion, therapy, and soul-work. It’s always been so much more than a business. I’ve never really considered myself
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Happy September you lovely people! As is my ritual every month, I pull out my Self-Love Workbook and I start writing, planning, and creating goals. It’s a way to organize my thoughts, let go of everything that happened in the month before (Ye Gods, August was tough for me!) and plan for all the things that I want to do in the coming month. (If you’re interested in the pens/stickers/washi tape I use, check out this link) Like I said, August was a hard one. It started with the eclipse and then my birthday and I felt so many things in
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I’ve been really open about my issues with depression and anxiety and how it’s so important to have conversations about it, especially with your teen. Mental health awareness is important to me. The more we talk about it, the more we can reduce the stigma surrounding it. Mental health isn’t something shameful that we should feel the need to hide from others. Being open about our struggles can have such a positive impact on our lives and the lives of the people around us who see that they aren’t alone. Before I get into how I treat my own depression
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As most of my reader’s know, I’m a super introvert. Understanding that part of my personality has been essential in how I practice self-care and also how I run my business. We’ve all taken the Myers-Briggs personality test to see what kind of personality type we have. I always fall between an INFP and an INFJ, I guess I can’t make up my mind as to whether I judge or perceive. Here’s what this means: (E) or (I) – Introversion or Extraversion Introverts like being by themselves and get tired when they’re around groups of people. Extroverts like social activities and
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Six years ago, I was a bundle of nerves and anxiety. It was crippling to the point that I found it hard to leave the house. I came to the point where I had to fix what was wrong in my life and I went on this amazing self-created Eat, Pray, Love journey that didn’t involve leaving my little corner of the world but did involve exposing myself to all sorts of different tools to begin to deal with everything that was wrong in my life. Slowly, my tense, high-strung, panic-attack having self began to unwind in this beautiful way.
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It’s the middle of the night, it’s storming outside, and the thunder is rumbling. A soft grumble that reminds me of a purring cat. I love nights like this, it’s when my creative-self likes to come out and play and dance in the rain. I love to write and the sound of my fingers on the keyboard. It’s music to my soul. I was thinking about how we do things that are not in line with the values of self-love. How some of those behaviors seem so innocuous, or so “normal”, that we don’t realize how they affect our energy
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