Self-Care Battery: Recharge Yours!

In the Self-Love Workbook, I talk a lot about self-care and recharging. But how do you know what and how to recharge? Let’s have a little chat about your self-care battery. Have you ever heard of the “Spoon Theory“? It’s a way to describe how people with chronic illness have a limited amount of energy. Every day they are allotted a certain number of “spoons”. Every activity costs a certain number of spoons. Getting out of bed may be two spoons, cooking breakfast is one, showering is two, doing chores is three, while going to work is four, and going out to lunch with friends is also four. For anyone who isn’t familiar with CFS (also called M.E.), Rheumatoid Arthritis, Lupus, or other diseases that causes extreme exhaustion and fatigue – that might not seem bad. Now imagine that you only get six spoons a day? You can get out of…

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Find Your Inner Safe Space

One thing that often happens when you don’t love yourself or when you have mental health issues is a constant yearning for a safe space. You want a place (often a person) where you feel loved. When you have anxiety or depression you want a place that makes you feel calm. So often we search for that outside of ourselves. Which isn’t always a bad thing – support systems are important. We want to surround ourselves with people who make us feel good and safe, but it is also so important to cultivate that sense of love and calm within yourself as well. The concept of an inner safe space has always been very important to me but it has also been a really huge struggle. In my early 20s I went through an intense period of depression and self-loathing and the concept of a safe space was alien to…

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Mid-January Self-Care Check-In!

Can you believe we’re already half-way through January? It seems like just yesterday I was so excited for a brand new year. I don’t know about you, but it’s been a long year already! That’s mostly due to being busy (the good kind!). I am so excited to get started on the new ideas that have been bouncing around in my head. I know most of us started off the year so ready to make positive changes in our lives. So, let’s do a little mid-month self-care check-in. Firstly: What’s the nicest thing you’ve done for yourself this month? For me personally, I’ve begun to focus more on my spirituality, thus the creation of the MoonSisterhood. I’ve been spending time in my sacred space every day while I journal. I use the Self-Love Workbook to kind of document my day, my mood, and my overall feelings, and then I use…

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How to Choose Your Word of the Year + 175 Suggestions

I’ve been picking a Word of the Year since 2012 and if you’ve got the Self-Love Planner then you’ve probably already chosen a word. I’ve always been big on new beginnings and I anxiously wait for the New Year because it’s fresh and shiny with no mistakes in it yet. Every year since I was a teenager I’ve made New Year’s Resolutions and I believe I failed at every single one of them. They were all your usual teenage resolutions – lose weight, make friends, become pretty and popular. Choosing a word of the year actually coincided with discovering the concept of self-love. It’s been a game changer. If you’d like to share your word and how you chose it, join our Facebook group, the SoulSisterhood. These have been my “words”. Surrender (2012) Shine (2013) Strength (2014) Depth (2015) Mend (2016) Magic (2017) Surrender – Part Two  (2018) Soften (2019) How do you choose…

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28 Self-Care Ideas for Winter

Let’s talk about our Winter self-care! Winter has always been my least favorite season. I used to dread all of the brown gloominess (we barely get snow here). Being stuck indoors, that killer wind and freezing temperatures, it’s just always so sad. I’ve learned to like it though. It took me a long time to realize that the reason that I hated it was because it made me face myself. Winter is by nature, isolating, and when you don’t like yourself that isolation feels like agony. And when you’re a shy introvert who finds it difficult to make friends? All the holiday stuff just makes it feel even lonelier. Winter and I have come to a place of peace, a place of tentative friendship, and over the last few years, I’ve learned that there are a lot of ways to love it and to love myself. Here are some of…

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What I’m Letting Go of in 2020

We’re only a few days into the New Year and as I’m filling out my Self-Care Planner I’m thinking about what I’m letting go of in 2020 as I move into a new year. A brand new shiny year with 366 days of magic just waiting to be filled. As I grow older, I find myself shedding more and more of who I used to be as I wrap authenticity around myself and become more and more myself. I used to give everything of myself so that other people would love me. I would try to be social even on the days when I was so mentally and socially exhausted that I knew I wouldn’t want to get out of bed for days. Loving myself wasn’t a problem. However, I still yearned for other people to love me in the same way that I loved myself. What I’m Letting Go…

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4 Self-Care New Year’s Resolutions

New Year is my favorite holiday. Yeah, I like big turkey dinners and I thoroughly enjoy opening gifts but you hand me a notebook and a few pilot pens (colorful ink please) and tell me to plan a new year – I am on cloud nine. I love that feeling of new-ness and wide-open-ness and the feeling that this year might be the year it happens, even if I don’t know what it is. Plus it’s the perfect time to start working in my Self-Care Planner!  I’ve noticed that this year there’s been a bit of smack talking about New Year’s Resolutions and I wanted to share my own point of view. I don’t think that making resolutions sets you up to fail, I don’t think that they indicate you’re broken, I don’t think that they’re a waste of time, or that “successful” people don’t do them. You can call them intentions,…

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Holiday Recovery Plan

We made it you guys! We got through the holidays and now it’s time to focus on our holiday recovery plan. There are six days until the New Year, till the end of the decade – so we’re in this weird in between place. I don’t know about you, but I am exhausted. If I had to give this holiday stars, it would be 2/5. I just wasn’t feeling the holiday season and I will shamelessly admit that I’m glad it’s over. Working in retail. Missing loved ones. Coping with your mental illness. Running out of spoons. Disappointment over your experience. We all have our reasons to recover. Here are some ideas for your holiday recovery plan. Bundle up and take a slow walk. Breathe deep. Notice your surroundings and the sounds. Release the tension in your shoulders. Enjoy the moment. Enjoy the gifts in your life – whether they’re…

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My Word of the Year for 2020

Every December, I choose a word for the coming year. The word is a theme, a mantra, a focal point for what I want to bring into my life. If you’ve followed my Self-Care Planner then you know I always include a spot for it! This will be my 9th year choosing a WOTY. As a look back at my words, each one is connected to a stage of my life. Surrender in 2012 was about surrendering to the concept of self-love. Shine in 2013 was about shaking away my depression for the first time in my life and letting myself be radiant. Strength in 2014 was about getting through another period of depression. I’d thought I’d come out the other side of my mental health but I’d begun to backslide. Depth in 2015 was about going deeper into every aspect of my life. Writing, art, and learning more about…

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