Self-Care: Focus on Friendships

I’ve struggled to make friends for pretty much my entire life. When I was really young I was suffering from undiagnosed anxiety so books were pretty much the only thing I was really interested in. But as I’ve grown older, I’ve learned how to make friends (wouldn’t it be great if life came with a guidebook?) and how important it is to set boundaries within those friendships. When I finally did learn how to do the whole friendship thing I was really co-dependent. I expected one person to meet all of my friendship needs. I’ve since learned how important it is to diversify. (Ohhh do I wish there was a guidebook!) We can’t expect one or two people to meet our needs so it’s okay to build up our friendship network! Are your friends part of your self-care routine? I’m still a huge introvert and a lot of the time…

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Understanding Your Path in the World

Life is hard. Am I the only one that wish it came with a guidebook or a leveling system so you could know what you’re supposed to be doing? In my 20s I had no idea what I was doing or what I was meant to do. I was on autopilot and and just existing. Purpose wasn’t ever something I put a lot of thought in. But it’s important to understand your path and where it’s taking you. We all feel lost sometimes. We feel weird. And we feel like so many people are ahead of us. So let’s talk about those crossroads that we often come to that define our path. Your Career The first thing that we’re going to look at is your career or your passion. The first thing to acknowledge is that people are different! Some people get a sense of accomplishment and joy from advancing…

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5 Wellness Tips for When You Feel Alone

Throughout a huge part of my life, I walked the line between lonely and alone. One is wonderful, the other? Not so much. I started living on my own when I was 19 and I didn’t start living with anyone else until I was 32. So that was 13 years coming home to absolutely nobody. There were days when it was horrible and there were also days when it was like magic. But right now we’re living through a pandemic and so many of us are being forced into alone-ness and loneliness is a natural side-effect. So that’s talk about some things you should keep in mind if you’re struggling right now. 5 Wellness Tips for When You Feel Lonely Find Something That You Enjoy I can’t stress this one enough. When my second relationship ended I struggled with loneliness to an extreme amount. I’d gone from having someone fill…

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How to Heal from Emotional Abuse

Today we have another post from our contributor, Sam on emotional abuse. Love should never hurt. But for too many, “love” seems almost inevitably linked to pain. For too many of us, our past relationships have taught us to expect to be hurt by our partners. Our histories have made us believe that we’re only lovable, we’re only worth sticking around for, if we’re sacrificing ourselves and our needs.  If we don’t suck it up and take it, we think we’re going to end up alone. And being alone, when you’ve been emotionally abused, is maybe the most terrifying prospect of all.  But life should not be pain. And love should most certainly never hurt. But you’ll never move on to the life you deserve until you finally stop blaming and start loving yourself at last. Recognizing the Abuse One of the most debilitating aspects of emotional abuse. We often…

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