Today I wanted to leave you a little love note, a very important message that I need for you to know.
It is okay to have boundaries.
It is okay to tell people “no”. Stand up for yourself and speak out when someone is not treating you the way you deserve to be treated.
Sometimes in life, we come across people who push our boundaries, or make us wish that we had boundaries to begin with. You know the ones. We allow them to put us down because we don’t want to be confrontational or cause problems. They say or do things that rub us the wrong way and make us feel uncomfortable. They take from us without giving back and make us feel used. We all know someone like that. You might let it go, you might make excuses, even justify it and blame yourself, but there’s something that you ought to know:
No one has the right to make you feel uncomfortable in your own skin.
No one has the right to put you down.
It’s not okay. No one has the right to make you doubt yourself or believe that you are not filled to the brim with greatness and potential ready to spill over.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Eleanor Roosevelt
So don’t give your consent. Don’t brush it off and allow it to be okay, because you are worth more than that.
It took me so long to learn this. To believe this.
If you don’t have boundaries make them. Put your foot down, put your fences up. Let people know that you do have boundaries, that your sense of self and your self esteem are off-limits. It’s worth it. It is worth it to be surrounded by people who support you or at least keep their negativity to themselves.
You know who you are.
You know what gifts are hiding within you so surround yourself with those who will nurture that and not try to take it away from you.