Closing the Door on the Past

closing the door on the past
Today I want to talk about closing the door on the past and how important it is that we do not visit the past and decide to live there. How often do you look back on the past? How often does looking back just stress you out? You keep thinking about the things that have happened to you and then you pull them into the present, giving them life again. The past is there to teach us – not torture us.

closing the door on the pastThe past is there to be learned from, the key here is to learn. This does not mean that you get to bring up the past to make yourself feel bad. To live a life full of regrets. Learn the lesson and then move joyfully on, putting it behind you.

“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.”  – Helen Keller

Self-love is not holding on too tightly to your mistakes.

Acknowledge them and then let them go off into the night. They are not for you anymore. I sometimes have those days where my mind wanders back to the past, where I beat myself up for so much wasted time making mistakes and being unhappy.

Yet it wasn’t wasted. It brought me here, to this place… this place where things are better and I am more whole than I was.

Today I want you to make a conscious effort to let go of the past.

In loving yourself enough to let your mistakes go. Let the pain go, be proud of the fact that you made it out the other side.
If there’s something that you’re struggling with when it comes to your past, it’s time to seek healing for it. There are so many paths to healing. Find yours.

I’m proud of you.

“Regret is an appalling waste of energy; you can’t build on it; it is good only for wallowing.”  – Katherine Mansfield

How are you closing the door on the past?



  1. Gin
    March 17, 2012 / 1:57 pm

    Wonderful post. I have those times when my mind wanders to the past too, and I end up feeling more pain, rather than simply focusing on whatever good memories there are.

  2. Dominee
    March 17, 2012 / 2:09 pm

    Thank you Evalena!

  3. Dominee
    March 17, 2012 / 2:11 pm

    It's really hard to let go and balance being grateful for the lessons you learned and keeping them with you, and wallowing in the pain that taught you those lessons. A very fine line!

  4. Renee Avard
    July 20, 2012 / 11:21 pm

    This is so very true.  I have always said that, while I dislike things I have done in the past, or poor decisions made, but they served a purpose.  To make me who I am right now.  I KNOW I would not be here had I not learned and survived through the lessons from days gone by. <3 

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