Your body is beautiful because it allows your heart to beat, it allows your arms to hold, and your feet to move. It allows you to do things that you’d never be able to do if you were just a mind or just a soul. You get to experience so much because your body exists.
Without your body where would you be?
I get asked all of the time, “How do I love my body?” It’s a really simple answer, but I know it’s hard to put it into practice. It took me a long time to get the hang of it. It all starts and ends with unconditional love. Unconditional love is affection with no limits or conditions; complete love. I love my body even on days where I feel “fat”. I love my body when my feet hurt. I love my body when I am sick. I love my body at all times.
I like to put it in terms that people can connect with on a deep level. If you’re a mother I want you to think of the first time you held your baby. Chances are, you fell instantly in love, you felt a connection. Why is that? Because your baby was part of you, part of you partner, instantly worth loving just for the simple fact that he or she existed and was yours.
What about your partner? Do you spend massive amounts of time and energy trying to get them to look like Johnny Depp or Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie? Why not? That’s the kind of person that we see in magazines and in the movies, that’s what society tells us we should want in a leading man or lady. But I’d imagine that you love and accept them anyway.
It doesn’t make you love them or their body any less does it?
Why do we constantly feel like our bodies are not good enough?
Why isn’t it worthy of unconditional love? What has it done to make itself worthy of hate or disappoint or disgust?
I think that is the question that needs to be answered and sometimes that takes a lot of deep inner work. Do that work. Figure that out for yourself. Discover what’s keeping you from looking in the mirror and being happy.
Your body is worthy of love simply because it is. Simply because it exists. Simply because it is part of you.
Maybe you want to lose weight, or gain weight, or shave your legs, or dye your hair, or build muscle, or get rid of scars, but at the end of the day, nothing essential changes. It’s still a body and it still belongs to you.
Stop looking for reasons to hate your body.
Start seeing that there are so many reasons why it’s worth loving right now, in this very instance, no matter what it looks like.