My favorite holiday is New Year’s Day. I absolutely love. If you’ve been around for a while I’m sure you already knew that! I did create a planner/workbook and a good chunk of it is all about embracing the new year and letting go of the old. I just love the idea that there’s a new chapter of life starting. It seems so concrete and tangible. It makes me feel like this is the year I can do it, whatever it may be.
Seven years ago I went on this beautiful journey of self-love. It took me two years to really get it, for the lessons to start to sink in. Seven years later and I still have work to do. But those first two years? I’m so thankful for them. I look back and see this beautiful period of magic, pain, and transformation. I wouldn’t change it for the world. When I say that self-love and self-care changes lives I mean it with every bone of my body. As hard, painful, terrifying, lonely as hell, as it can sometimes be, it is so worth it.
So if your plan is to focus on self-love this year, I got you.
Get the 2019 Self-Love Workbook. The digital version is only $10 and it’s a great tool. It’s everything I wish I had when I first started my journey. It will shine a light on all of the places where you need to do the work and also highlight what’s going right for you. It gives you all the information that I have about how to put self-care first. If you’re not sold on the idea, check out my Facebook group and see what others are getting out of it.
Our Facebook Group. Little socially awkward me is leading a group of almost 4,000 women. I know, it’s crazy. The Soulsisterhood is so close to my heart. It’s a judgment-free zone full of uber supportive, absolutely amazing, people. Having a rough time with your mental health? Need love, support or advice? Want to vent about your latest self-love hurdles? We’re there, we get it, we understand. It’s a beautiful and amazing place.
Choose a Word of the Year. Really, do. It sounds silly. It sounds like such an inconsequential thing. How can choosing a word change anything? It can’t. Not on its own. But when you connect with that word, whatever it is, and you carry it with you and you consciously apply it to situations in your life, things change.
Magical Ways to Let Go. I’m a little bit witchy and I love the act of ritual because it involves actively using your intent to make something happen. Here are some ways that you can let go of this year if it sucked for you.
Practice self-care every day.
31 Days of Self-Love. You don’t have to give me your e-mail address or sign up for anything. It’s simple. It’s easy. 31 days of self-love covers all aspects of loving yourself. From shadow-work to activities to thought-provoking questions, I tried to cover all of it. It’s a good place to start and a good way to get to know yourself a little better. Acknowledging and seeing your experiences as they are is the first step to healing.
28 Self-Care Ideas for Winter. Seriously, try some of these out. I’m a huge fan of inexpensive and innovative self-care ideas. A lot of these are just about taking a breath and doing something fun to enjoy your own company.
How To Love Yourself. If you are completely lost on the concept of self-love, this post explains 6 of the most crucial steps when it comes to self-love.
Here’s some advice.
Loving yourself is hard. Really really hard. It’s easy to sit down and write a blog post about how to love yourself more. But doing it? That’s the hard part. Most of us fall into self-loathing as teenagers and now it’s 10-20 years later. 20 years of brain patterns that you’re fighting against. The amount of sheer force of will it takes to do that often feels insurmountable. Anyone who shows up and tries anyway? Rockstar.
Keep trying. Keep re-routing your brain when it defaults toward destructive behaviors and thoughts. Do it anyway. Don’t let anyone make you feel like self-love and self-care are frivolous. It’s not. Even the “frivolous” acts of self-care are acts of choosing yourself.
Don’t be discouraged if it takes time. Don’t get discouraged if you have bad days or you keep making crappy decisions. Change is coming.
Self-love can absolutely change your life, so let it.