I Have A Confession: Part 3 – Loving an Alcoholic

In part one I talked about the beginning of my relationship with an alcoholic. In part two I talked about how it gets worse. We start off part three with her being sober for two months. She gets into a sober living house (a house full of 5-9 women who are also trying to be sober, who support one another while being held accountable for behavior and sobriety, who go to meetings and do outreach for others who are struggling). She goes to AA and NA meetings, starts working the 12 steps with her sponsor, takes her medication. This is…

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I Have A Confession: Part Two

Yesterday, in part one of my super long story about my last failed relationship that put me through the gauntlet of change and transformation, we left off with my partner at the time finally admitting that she was an alcoholic. Talk about relief. Everyone always says the first step is admitting you have a problem. I got this huge surge of hope, and my first thought was “Okay, this is salvageable. This situation is something that I can now handle.” It’s no longer “I’m going to try to drink less”. She’s admitting she has a real problem. She’s admitting she…

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I Have A Confession: Part One

There was a time when I shared nearly every aspect of my life on this blog. It’s been over seven years, nearly a decade since I pressed “publish” on my little Blogger blog. I’ve grown a lot, shared a lot, written a lot. I’ve talked about my decision not to have kids, my anger issues, my breakups, the ugly truth of my life before self-care. If someone really took the time to read this blog from beginning to end, they’d know more about me than 90% of the people in my life. I used to worry that I was a…

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Help Me Create the 2019 Self-Love Workbook!

This month has been awesome for me! We had a week’s worth of rain, I celebrated my 33rd birthday (whoo hoo!), got engaged (more on that later, I promise!) and now I have officially entered the planning stages of the 2019 Self-Love Workbook + Planner and I want your help. The Self-Love Workbook is first and foremost about encouraging people to love themselves and practice self-care on a daily basis in a way that’s sustainable and easy to do. There was a time in my life where I didn’t know what self-care was. When I first discovered it, it was something…

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Do You Need to Love Yourself First?

In lots of Self Love Circles, there’s that quote that says “You can’t love someone else until you learn to love yourself”, or “No one will love you until you love yourself.” In my early days of self-care, I’m pretty sure that I believed that. Experience has given me a deeper perspective on it. It’s such a good question: is our capacity to love and be loved influenced by how we feel about ourselves? Of course, it is. But will it make or break your relationship? That depends. You don’t need to love yourself to (love or) be loved by…

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Building a Healthy Sense of Self-Love at a Young Age

Hello, my lovely readers! Today I have a great guest post from the people at Jumo Health who are all about providing age-appropriate mental health, health, and self-care resources for kids. As you know, I’m all about. If you’ve purchased my anxiety workbook, Breathe. then you’re familiar with my story of childhood anxiety. My childhood was rough. That had less to do with outside influences and more to do with what was in my head. I didn’t understand what anxiety or depression was. There was no concrete reason I could point to and say: “This is it, this is what bothers me.”…

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56 Random Acts of Kindness Ideas

I just released my brand new Random Acts of Kindness Cards and I am so excited! You can hand out these cute little cards to tell people thank you, to brighten their day, or just as an act of kindness! It’s so important to be kind, especially in a world of social media where we can so easily see all of the things that are going on around the world. The world needs a little more light and a little more glow. Several years ago, after I started practicing self-care, I realized that it gave me the ability to not…

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August End-Of-Summer Self-Care Challenge!

It’s time for another monthly challenge! This one is all about making time to enjoy this last bit of wonderful summer sunshine, can you believe it’s almost over? Self-care is all about giving yourself what you need and that changes on a daily basis. Sometimes you need to go within and focus on all of those things like personal growth, self-development, and healing those inner wounds. (If you’re interested in that I have the perfect challenge for you here) and other times you need to take a step back and focus on the light-hearted moments, you know, that thing called fun.…

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Distress Tolerance: Self-Soothing

I first heard of self-soothing as it relates to small children but a few years ago as I started practicing DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) I also learned that it’s a skill we need to cultivate as an adult. Making ourselves feel better is a pretty underrated talent. DBT focuses on four main things, mindfulness, interpersonal effectiveness, emotion regulation, and distress tolerance. Distress tolerance is how we learn to bring ourselves down from super strong emotions. I used to have such strong spikes of emotion. My moods would go from 0 to 100 almost instantly. Anger, sadness, depression, overwhelm – one minute…

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12 Journaling Prompts for Mental Health

If you’ve been around here for awhile then you know how passionate I am about using journaling as a tool for personal growth, reflection, and overall it-stops-me-from-completely-losing-my-mind. A lot of my products are based on journaling. Breathe. has a ton of journaling prompts to suss out the root of your anxiety while helping you to discover what coping mechanisms work for you. Journey Through Journaling is all about putting your personal journey into words. And then there’s this blog that is, at times, an open journal where I share my thoughts. Journaling and writing in general, has helped me overcome…

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July Self-Care Check-In + Challenge!

The summer sun is shining and like each brand new month, I am so excited about it. Each month is an opportunity to set intentions, create goals, and start with a brand new blank slate. In other words, we get to pretend that we can have our shit together for a whole 30 days. It doesn’t hurt to try though! My goal every month is to make more progress than I did the month before. Even if I fall short, I’m still moving forward and that’s the part that matters. Our goal is not to completely turn our lives upside…

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Sleep as Self-Care: 4 Ways on How to Sleep Better

Do you ever find yourself feeling a bit low? Low on energy, low on enthusiasm, low on life. Looking around thinking…is this all there is?! Well don’t panic and don’t despair – you’re certainly far from being alone. If we didn’t all feel a little stuck in a rut from time to time then the massive multi-billion dollar self-help industry wouldn’t exist would it? Now, I don’t have everything sorted out – far from it! But there are a few things I know to be gospel. The secret to feeling better about yourself is not owning a faster car, having…

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5 Powerful Self-Love Quotes

I’ve always been a huge fan of quotes. There are some that have had a powerful effect on me and changed the way I view an important part of my life. “You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep people warm.” had a profound effect on me. It changed my way of thinking on a lot of levels. I was thinking that if I could condense my views on self-love and self-care into 5 quotes, what would they be? So here ya go! These are my own words and my own wisdom on self-love. I’d love to…

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