Gaslighting & the After-Effects

This morning, I was browsing Facebook, as you do, and I came across a meme that talked about how victims of gaslighting often develop a tendency to over-explain themselves. And it hit me hard because it’s so true. Gaslighting is a form of abuse and manipulation where one person tries to alter someone else’s reality. For example, someone telling you that you’re remembering something wrong, or that something didn’t happen, when you know it did. It’s not a lapse in memory or a mistake, but a concentrated effort to undermine you and make you question what you know so that they can avoid accountability for their actions. I still feel the after-effects of gas-lighting. When confronting a problem in my current relationship I basically feel like I have to have a powerpoint presentation complete with times and dates and specific instances. It’s still in my head that everything I say…

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Self-Reliance in Relationships

I know a lot about a lot of things, that’s the great thing about having a nearly obsessive love of reading. I know a lot about mental health and self-care due to a whole lot of reading and also firsthand experience. So let’s talk about relationships self-reliance. And how I know what not to do. I have that completely down. I know what things make for a toxic, terrible, situation, but do I know a lot about how to have a happy relationship? A bit, I’m kinda new to it. My wife and I had a whirlwind romance. Three months after meeting we got married because I just knew that I wanted her to be my partner forever. She makes me laugh like no other. There’s not a day that goes by that’s not filled with belly-laughter to the point there’s almost tears running down my face and she is…

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