This morning, I was browsing Facebook, as you do, and I came across a meme that talked about how victims of gaslighting often develop a tendency to over-explain themselves. And it hit me hard because it’s so true. Gaslighting is a form of abuse and manipulation where one person tries to alter someone else’s reality. For example, someone telling you that you’re remembering something wrong, or that something didn’t happen, when you know it did. It’s not a lapse in memory or a mistake, but a concentrated effort to undermine you and make you question what you know so that they can avoid accountability for their actions. I still feel the after-effects of gas-lighting. When confronting a problem in my current relationship I basically feel like I have to have a powerpoint presentation complete with times and dates and specific instances. It’s still in my head that everything I say…