Detoxing: When Positive Life Changes Hurt

This is the time of the year when we are all so ramped up to make big life improvements and change ourselves. New year, new you. We start off full of hopes and dreams and ready to kick all of those bad habits and start making positive changes in our lives. Have you ever tried to break a bad habit and you quickly get to the point where quitting feels worse than the consequences of whatever bad habit you’re trying to break? I’m like that with caffeine. I’ll try to quit and the next day I’ll be exhausted and I’ll have a headache and I’ll feel completely miserable. One thing that comes up a lot of the time is why does it hurt to change? When you start making changes, good changes and positive changes, why do things start sucking even more? Because you are detoxing. When you give up…

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A Love Letter to Shy Girls

I am shy. Sometimes it feels like the worst non-superhero power you could ever have. For all of the shy girls out there who get that, who know how hard it is to talk and speak and use your voice – I want you to know that I see you, I hear you, and I love you. I know what it’s like to hover on the outside, too afraid to draw notice to yourself for fear that you won’t be good enough, or interesting enough, or that you’ll have to bend or break just to fit in. That your words will come out jumbled, that there will be awkward silences, and that your brain won’t come up with the words to fill the silence. I want to tell you a few things. You are wise. You know how to sit back and read situations and see the things that no…

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12 Things I Learned Last Year

2014 felt like a huge challenge in being true to myself and my wants. (Although don’t they all, really?) My sense of self was tested and stretched and my ideas about who I am and what I want and where I’m going had to be re-evaluated. Every year should be like that you know, it keeps you growing and keeps you honest and true to yourself. (Even though oftentimes those feels are painful and sucky and complicated and maddening.) I like to take a look back at the year and catalog everything I learned as a reminder of what to bring with me into the new year. Here are a few lessons that stick out: Stepping away from your comfort zone can be an amazing thing. Even if things don’t go your way you’ll feel braver for it and that’s a truly wonderful feeling. Makes you want to pound your…

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What’s your 2015 Anthem?

If you bought the 2015 Self Love Planner you probably saw that there’s a page to choose your 2015 Theme Song. The last few years I’ve taken to choosing a song and making it my anthem for the year. We all need a really great song that we can rock out to when we’re feeling sad or unsure of ourselves. Something to get the blood pumping through our veins to remind us that we are alive and that there is a purpose for us. My song for 2014 was I Am Light by India.Arie, the year before that it was Spotlight by Patrick Stump, and before that Firework by Katy Perry. We need all the tools we can get to help us make it through the year with happiness, with joy, and with a little bit of rhythm in the swing of our hips. What song makes you happy? Makes…

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