Saying No: An Act of Self-Love

One of the foundations of self-love: Boundaries. Your ability to say “no” to people is often an indicator of how well you’re loving yourself. If you are constantly saying yes to people and situations that you want to say “no” to you end up being exhausted, burnt out, and with little time for yourself and for self-care. When I first created my Self-Love Planner (years ago!) one of the things I noticed right away was how much time I spent doing things that I didn’t want to do. At that time of my life, I was still an introvert in denial. I tried to be that extroverted person who went out and had friends and I was absolutely miserable. And still, I said yes. It’s okay to say “no”. No, when you don’t want to do something. No, when someone makes you uncomfortable and treats you in a way you…

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October: Cultivating Boundaries

I am a very firm believer that boundaries are one of the foundations of self-love. I’ve written about it here, and here, and here. You’ve got to have boundaries. You’ve got to have the ability to say “No. This is not okay.” no matter how painful and cringy it feels to say those words, to disappoint people that you might genuinely care about. You need to have that boundary with yourself and you need to have it with others. It’s essential. You need to have your limit and know what “too far” is for you. You need to know your boundaries. I’ve talked about boundaries and that word is a great choice for your word-of-the-month in the Self Love Planner. A boundary is a clearly defined point where your responsibility ends and another person begins. Boundaries stop you from doing the work that other people should be doing for themselves. It…

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Boundaries, you need to have them!

Today I wanted to leave you a little love note, a very important message that I need for you to know. It is okay to have boundaries. It is okay to tell people “no”. Stand up for yourself and speak out when someone is not treating you the way you deserve to be treated. Sometimes in life, we come across people who push our boundaries, or make us wish that we had boundaries to begin with. You know the ones. We allow them to put us down because we don’t want to be confrontational or cause problems. They say or do things that rub us the wrong way and make us feel uncomfortable. They take from us without giving back and make us feel used. We all know someone like that. You might let it go, you might make excuses, even justify it and blame yourself, but there’s something that…

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