How to Deal With the Death of a Loved One

Have you been a reader for a while? Then you might know that I just came upon the one-year anniversary of my mother’s death. It never really gets easier. I think I’ve learned that the first year is the hardest. It’s getting through all of those initial hurdles. The first birthday, mother’s day, holiday season… that punched-in-the-gut feeling hits you on those days. I think the second time around might be easier. Just a bit. Losing someone you love is painful. Often it’s so painful that you can feel it physically. No one ever really tells you about that – the upset stomach, the tightness in your chest from anxiety, the headaches from stress and crying. Grief is hard. There is no easy way to accept the death of someone you love and just move on, it’s never that easy, but you’ve got to keep moving forward. You have to…

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Coping With Grief During the Holidays

I talked a little bit in last week’s newsletter and on Instagram about how this is the first holiday season after my Mom’s death in February. (I’ve since created a workbook on Grief. you can check it out here) There are some days when I don’t think about it and other days when it feels like it’s the only thing on my mind. These past few weeks it’s more the latter. The holidays are hard for so many reasons anyway that grief can add another layer. I’d like to be able to tell you that I’ve got it all figured out. I don’t. Not even close. This post is not written from a point of “these are things I’ve done and they will heal your grief”. Nope. I’m right there with you trying to take my own advice. Grieving and hurting and mostly trying to pretend that I’m okay and that…

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Self-Care For Grief

Happy Spring, Lovies! Rebirth, renewal, new beginnings. I’m so here for it. It’s been such a long two months for me. I’ve talked about how at the beginning of February, my mom passed away. It feels so weird to talk about it. Part of me is like “God, Dominee, you’ve talked about it so much, stop already.” The other part realizes what a huge part of my year it’s been. There’s a reason that the Death card in Tarot is less about death and more about transformation – because I find myself coming out of this phase a completely different person in so many ways. This was my first real, hard-hitting, experience with death as an adult. My grandmother died when I was 11 and while I loved her dearly, she’d had several bouts of cancer and all of my memories with her involve her being in less than great…

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Loss and Grief – An Oracle Message

“Great Spirits and Guides, please share with me your wisdom….” Today the card that I pulled for you… for me… for us… was a deep one. The Lady of the Harvest from Brian Froud’s The Faeries’ Oracle. She represents completion, grief, loss, and release. Grab a hot cup of tea, a blanket, and snuggle down to listen to her wisdom. The Lady of the Harvest is here to tell us about the grieving process. There are several processes of grief. Shock/denial, anger/guilt, emotional storm, acceptance, regaining of perspective, the beginning of healing, and then the deepening of our capacity to deal. It makes us stronger. The Lady of the Harvest understands this process and is here with a gentle hand to guide us… lovingly… through the twists and turns of the process. Little losses, big losses, we all go through this process in some manner. Sometimes it is over in…

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