Hogwarts House Self-Care Ideas

Everyone knows that I’m a huuuuuge Harry Potter fan. To say obsessed would be accurate. When I was writing the post about Low-Key Toxic Traits I referenced how my Hufflepuff traits of Loyalty and Patience can sometimes be toxic. When they don’t have boundaries, even good traits go bad. This made me think of how awesome it would be to create Hogwarts House Self-Care ideas. So now, I’m that showcasing self-care ideas for each house. I’m always interested to hear what house people identify with, it always tells me something about their personality. If you don’t know yours, you can take the Sorting Test here. What’s your Hogwarts House Self-Care?

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What Are Your Low-Key Toxic Traits?

I’m a Hufflepuff. If you’re not into Harry Potter, Hufflepuff is the house that values patience and loyalty. Patience and loyalty are awesome traits unless they’re rooted in unresolved trauma and fear of abandonment combined with poor boundaries. Hello. That’s me. My loyalty, which makes me a kick-ass friend who will stand by your side no matter what – stems from an intense fear of abandonment. I fear abandonment so I over-compensate by not wanting to abandon anyone else. No matter what. Even when they hurt me, lie to me, take advantage of me – I will still be your friend. Let’s not even get into relationships – for three years I dealt with verbal and emotional abuse, cheating, lying, manipulation, gas-lighting, and being financially used and I stayed because loyalty. And patience? It’s endless. I am endlessly patient as I wait for you to change. Patient as I give…

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How Trello Helps Me Manage Anxiety

When I first started learning how to manage my anxiety, I discovered pretty quickly that a routine, stability, and a lack of surprises is my optimum functioning environment. I’m pretty sure that my childhood had a lot to do with that. My little brother is on the autism spectrum and a large amount of my childhood revolved around that. Consistency and routine were key, right down to the fact that his peanut butter sandwiches had to be made just right. Everything had to run on a schedule or he’d have a meltdown. My mom was a single mom and a lot of the time she was working two jobs. I had a lot of responsibility to maintain that, from getting him ready for school to the consistency of his bedtime routine. I remember being generally anxious from the age of 10 or 11 on. I’m not sure if or how…

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Fitness + Body Positivity Suggestions Needed!

Today’s blog post for NaBloPoMo was supposed to be about something completely different, you’ll see what tomorrow! Instead, we’re going to talk about fatness, fitness, and body positivity. If you’ve been around a while then you might know that 10 years ago I lost a ton of weight. It was 70-80lb and to be truthful, 10 years later I’ve gained it all back and maybe more? I don’t know because I don’t weigh myself. It might be the Leo in me, it might be the fact that when I put my mind to something I go alllll in, and I also tend to be a tad bit obsessive about things so knowing my weight is not good for my mental health. I’ll fixate on that number, go overboard trying to be in control, and in the process make myself miserable. While I’ve never firmly planted my feet in eating disorder…

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