Okay, you’re out on your own, now what? Adulting! Adulting: Doing adult-like things because you’re an adult. For me, becoming an adult was this weird experience I was wholly unprepared for. It felt like someone had thrown me into the deep end of the pool and told me to swim…
Human beings are not fixed. We’re constantly changing, adapting, and evolving. We all have default behaviors but that doesn’t mean that we can’t change them. Because we can change them. We don’t have to stay stuck. The last few months, I’ve been focusing on my anxiety. Global pandemics have a…
I’m a Hufflepuff. If you’re not into Harry Potter, Hufflepuff is the house that values patience and loyalty. Patience and loyalty are awesome traits unless they’re rooted in unresolved trauma and fear of abandonment combined with poor boundaries. Hello. That’s me. My loyalty, which makes me a kick-ass friend who…
I got an email last week from a reader asking me “How do you find yourself?”. How do you start focusing on yourself when it’s something that you’ve never done before? How do you find your role in life and most importantly how do you find that starting point for…
“You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm.” I feel like I need that tattooed on my forehead so I can see it every day when I look in the mirror. I fell in love with it the moment I read the words and…
We’ve all had those moments in life when we let the view of someone else determine how we feel about ourselves. I think about the times in my life that I’ve felt unworthy and they flash through my brain in quick succession. Exes, crushes, friendships, that time in 10th grade…
There’s something that I’ve learned about life that’s taken me a long time to get into my head and make it stay there. I am in charge of my own life. I’m the ruler. I get a say in what happens in my life because this story is about me…
One thing I always struggled with when I was younger was time. I felt like it always took me too much time. It took me too long to make friends, it took me too long to think of the right things to say in social situations, too long to fall in…
If you’ve followed me for a while (and I love you for that) you’ll know that I have a job other than this pretty, shiny, website. I work overnights (10pm-7am) at a Walmart, stocking whatever they want me to stock. (Not glamorous, I know.) I’ve maintained that I enjoy my job…
Happy Self Love Sunday! What are you doing today to give yourself some lovins? Me? I’m sitting here with windows open, enjoying the cold Autumn air. HEAVEN. All the time, people ask me how I am so happy, how do I stay positive, and why am I so damn cheerful?…
I’ve been on this self-improvement journey for almost a year now. I am learning so many things about myself – both good things and bad things. Last night I was thinking about changes, more specifically, the changes that I see in myself. It has been such a long road for…