What Are Your Low-Key Toxic Traits?

I’m a Hufflepuff. If you’re not into Harry Potter, Hufflepuff is the house that values patience and loyalty. Patience and loyalty are awesome traits unless they’re rooted in unresolved trauma and fear of abandonment combined with poor boundaries. Hello. That’s me. My loyalty, which makes me a kick-ass friend who will stand by your side no matter what – stems from an intense fear of abandonment. I fear abandonment so I over-compensate by not wanting to abandon anyone else. No matter what. Even when they hurt me, lie to me, take advantage of me – I will still be your…

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Self-Discovery: 8 Ways to Find Your True Self

I got an email last week from a reader asking me “How do you find yourself?”. How do you start focusing on yourself when it’s something that you’ve never done before? How do you find your role in life and most importantly how do you find that starting point for figuring yourself out? Awesome questions and they definitely made me think! They also made me nostalgic about my own journey to self-discovery. It was equal parts the happiest and one of the more painful times in my life. When I first started this blog and this journey I felt –…

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How Do You Define Your Self-Worth?

“You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm.” I feel like I need that tattooed on my forehead so I can see it every day when I look in the mirror. I fell in love with it the moment I read the words and they sunk into my brain. As an empath, it resonated. It has been such a struggle for me not to carry other people’s problems around with me, not to give everything inside of me to save someone else from pain, and not to break under other people’s expectations of who…

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You Are Not Unworthy

We’ve all had those moments in life when we let the view of someone else determine how we feel about ourselves. I think about the times in my life that I’ve felt unworthy and they flash through my brain in quick succession. Exes, crushes, friendships, that time in 10th grade when I was on the school newspaper and they all had a pizza party and didn’t invite me and despite my love of writing, I quit the next day because obviously, I was full of suck. There will always be someone who just doesn’t think that you’re their cup of…

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